There was recently a wee kerfuffle in the blogosphere when Stephen Fry said that women like sex less than men, because women don't go around cruising for random anonymous sex.
I didn't think this was worth blogging about in and of itself, but this morning in the shower it gave me an analogy.
Think of different commitment styles as different sex acts, which they kind of are on the emotional level. There's all kinds of sex acts out there. You probably have your favourites, and then some others that are enjoyable enough but not absolutely geil, and then others that you don't particularly mind but don't especially mourn their absence, and then some others where frankly you'd rather go to bed alone with a good book.
Commitment preferences work the same way. Some people like it better with only one partner, some people like it better with many. Some people think having a personal relationship on top of the sexual relationship complicates things, some people think nothing could be sexier.
So to say that someone likes sex less because they have no interest in random anonymous sex is like saying someone likes sex less because they have no interest in, say, figging. (Don't google it while at work).
2 comments:
You have just constructed the perfect analogy.
I didn't know Stephen Fry said that, but it's stupid on several levels. For one thing, not all men go around cruising for random anonymous sex, and many women do.
Actually, now that you mention it, straight women looking for random anonymous sex probably just go to mainstream bars and clubs. To the external observer, it would be indistinguishable from Meeting Someone.
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